The sound woke me suddenly and my heart was beating fast. Adrenalin was coursing as I identified the source of the alarm. Two vibrations and then a few rising tones meant that my hubby’s blood sugar had exceeded the high threshold and his monitor was alerting.
I laid there in the dark, processing the information for a few minutes and it alarmed again. This time he sat up, insulin pump in hand. He took stock of his number and administered the insulin.
Five minutes later, the alarm sounded again. And five minutes later, and five minutes later….
He dozed beside me but I couldn’t sleep. Now awake, I thought of design ideas for an improvement to the continuous monitoring device. A temporary hold on alarms came to mind; a way to communicate that insulin was delivered, now hush and give it time to work its magic already.
Still awake, my thoughts went to the previous day. It was not a good one for me. Work was fine, home was fine, my commute was fine. I was not. Fine. The tension had been building for weeks.
I reviewed my conversations, my mindset, my attitudes. I regretted spoken words. It had been ugly.
I gave much thought to my husband’s earlier wise counsel over a situation that I was struggling with.
I was filled with regret. I was ashamed and embarrassed. I was truly sorry.
The truth is that I’m overwhelmed. Deadlines missed. People disappointed. Criticism hurled. Expectations dashed. I have a litany of reasons to be disappointed with myself that I recite when I turn the attack inward.
I am as hard on myself as I am on others. “Why did you ever think you could complete a half marathon?” I have guilt and embarrassment over yet another thing that I started and couldn’t finish. Mind you, an arthritic hip is the real demon here, but I’m glad to take a beating over it.
I took stock. I asked myself a question.
“What are you afraid of?”
Immediately, I thought of my every day fears. Lizards. Snakes…most any reptile you can name. But really, those aren’t the things that scare me when I lie awake in the night, when I’m driving my car, or when I sit down to write.
The truth is that I’m afraid that I’m not enough.
When I was expecting my second child (we didn’t know she was a girl – it was the 70’s) I was afraid. I had normal expectant mom fears like birth defects and whether something I ate or something the doctor prescribed might harm my baby.
But my biggest fear? I was afraid that I wouldn’t have enough love for another child.
I loved my firstborn daughter with a love that I had never known. She was our life. I couldn’t wait for her to wake up in the morning and I stood over her crib and watched her sleep at night. There was no way that I had the capacity to love another child like that. This new baby? I feared she would get leftovers. If there were any, that is.
Of course, our second daughter was born and I loved her dearly – she was such a gift to our little family.
That fear was ridiculous but it loomed large and in charge for the better part of eight months (again…the 70’s – I had to actually wait a few weeks to get a pregnancy test at the doctor’s office).
Fear unfounded. God created our hearts with the capacity to love beyond our wildest imaginations.
Back to that alarm in the night…the problem with it was lack of data. The device knew only the number that it was reading. It was not aware of the on-board insulin and therefore didn’t take it into consideration. It continued to act like there was not enough.
Through tears I confess that I am just like that. The fear is real, just like that number. There are plenty of triggers that cause me to be alarmed. There always will be. And I feel despicable. I’m ashamed. I’m afraid that no matter how much I do, how hard I try, I will never be enough. And data is proving it. The world, even good people, even some of the people who love me, will never be fully satisfied with me.
But unlike that device, I know the remedy has already been supplied. There is no need to walk about with anxiety and weariness over feeling I am not enough.
“Others were given in exchange for you. I traded their lives for yours
because you are precious to me. You are honored, and I love you.”
I recently read these words from Kelly Balarie: “If it wants to beat you, tie you down, and throw you out back for always being despicable, I assure you, it is not God.”
And further, if I constantly find fault with myself, I will not have the confidence to recognize the good in those around me. I will never honestly admire others more than I admire who God designed me to be.
I wish I had a nice little bow to tie on this post. All figured out. Got it.
The truth is that I’m taking baby steps. I’m reading the words of a trusted mentor and I’m making a choice to walk in faith rather than fear.
He is enough, therefore I am enough…
What fear are you struggling with today? I pray that you too, can begin to walk in faith and I highly recommend you join me on my fear-fighting expedition.
About the book, Fear Fighting, Awakening the Courage to Overcome Your Fears:
Author and Speaker, Kelly Balarie didn’t always fight fear – for a large part of her life, she was controlled by it. Yet, in her book, Fear Fighting: Awakening Courage to Overcome Your Fears, with God, Kelly charts a new course. Join Kelly, on the journey to go and grow with Christ’s bravery, the Spirit’s counsel and God’s unending love that squelches fear. This book reads like a love letter from God, while offering practical heart-calming prayers, anxiety-reducing tips, and courage-building decrees that will transform your day.
About Kelly Balarie:
Kelly is both a Cheerleader of Faith and a Fighter of Fear. She leans on the power of God, rests on the shoulder of Christ, and discovers how to glow in the dark places of life. Get all Kelly’s blog posts by email or visit her on her blog, Purposeful Faith. You can also find a variety of resources for your fight against fear at http://www.fearfightingbook.com/.
 Quote from: Fear Fighting – awakening courage to OVERCOME your fears, by Kelly Balarie
Fear is such a strong emotion!. I fear spiders, little ones etc and decided I am never going to New Zealand where they have spiders larger than a mans hands.
I think we all feel we are not good enough. Maybe pick one thing on you that you like, and that can be your “I am OK” thing.
I tank Martha for turning me on to your blog.
It always gives me something to think about.
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Thank you for reading, Beverly! Spiders bigger than a mans hand?? No thank you!
Thanks for your encouragement!
We share a root fear. So thankful for Kelly’s book!
This is a personal fear for me, too, Lorraine! Thank you for sharing, especially about the insulin device. I’m picturing us turning off the alarms, even as they keep ringing again with “not enough,” because we know the Lord is pumping into us His enough, and as we accept His help and peace and all He offers, eventually those alarms aren’t set off so much. We know Him who is enough, and we belong to Him : )
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So often, I am impatient! I can’t/won’t wait to see the results of his “enough”! As you know, it’s always good to know that the words He’s given me speak to the hearts of his people. Thank you for reading!
Love your blog as well, Bethany. Thanks for writing!
Your story and the way you wove it in with what happened was remarkable. I am very thankful to have found your blog and that we were neighbors today at Kelly’s. I will be praying for you! I hope I too will allow God’s truth to whisper in my heart as I learn to push the lies and overwhelm away.
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